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		<title>Saving Your Marriage With Effective Communication</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 31 Dec 1969 19:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[There comes a time in every marriage where one or both spouses want to give up and walk away. This is critically the time when no one should ever give up! The only way a marriage can be saved is if both partners are interested in saving it. 
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>There comes a time in every marriage where one or both spouses want to give up and walk away. This is critically the time when no one should ever give up! The only way a marriage can be saved is if both partners are interested in saving it. </p>
<p>We all know that when two people are simply incompatible, the marriage will not work no matter how hard the couple tries to keep it going. Tending to a marriage can be a tough job but if the marriage is not nurtured, it will die out just as if it were a neglected plant.  </p>
<p>First of all, communication is the key to any relationship whether bound legally in marriage or just teenage puppy love. No relationship will work if nobody expresses how they feel. However, points of no communication do occasionally tend to happen at certain points in the marriage. </p>
<p>There are times when one spouse or even both feel that they cannot say something to the other because it may hurt them, or it may cause an unwanted argument neither one wants to engage in. </p>
<p>Therefore, if you feel that your marriage is going down the drain, it is time to sit down now with your spouse and discuss what the problem is and why the two of you should stay together. </p>
<p>There are certain things that can happen in a marriage that can tear a couple apart. Anything to break the trust of the other person is a dead giveaway that the marriage is in trouble. </p>
<p>Cheating is one of the main causes of divorce. However, some couples can still keep it together through a cheating spouse. </p>
<p>Even though the marriage stays together, it does not mean that the trust still exists or even that the relationship is strong. If a couple is going to stay together through one cheating spouse, there needs to be major forgiveness. This not just for the cheating spouse, but for the other partner as well!  </p>
<p>Another way to make sure you save your marriage is to take responsibility for anything that you have or may have done. Hostility can be a really big problem if there is no communication. </p>
<p>Remember, you need to accept responsibility if you have been hostile to your spouse. Continued hostility can really damage a couples marriage whether they realize it or not. </p>
<p>Put away those sharp words and attitudes. Be nice and polite. However, if you cannot say anything nice about your spouse, there is something seriously wrong in your relationship. </p>
<p>After doing everything you can to possibly save your marriage and you still having problems with your spouse, it may be time to see a marriage counselor. All marriages are not guaranteed to be saved though. </p>
<p>If you happen to be in an abusive relationship; whether verbally, mentally or physically, it could very well be time for a divorce. </p>
<p>However, some people do not realize they are being verbally or mentally abusive to their partner. This is where communication really comes into play. </p>
<p>You need to divulge honestly to your spouse how their harsh words make you feel. But, if you are afraid of your spouse then it is time to get out of the relationship right away and move on.</p>
<p>Alan Largo is the creator and administrator of Save Any Marriage and strives to assist others identify with their adverse marital situation through informative reviews. You&#8217;re invited to visit <a href="http://saveanymarriage.wordpress.com/">Save Any Marriage</a> to read his most recent article review.</p>
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		<title>How To Save Your Marriage And Keep It Alive</title>
		<link>http://www.allwomenideas.com/2008/07/10/how-to-save-your-marriage-and-keep-it-alive/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 31 Dec 1969 19:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Can you really save a marriage that is fizzling out? When you first fall in love and get married, the last thing you would ever think about is if your marriage will fall apart. 
You have your newfound love and you feel that your relationship will last forever. Unfortunately, things do not always happen that [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Can you really save a marriage that is fizzling out? When you first fall in love and get married, the last thing you would ever think about is if your marriage will fall apart. </p>
<p>You have your newfound love and you feel that your relationship will last forever. Unfortunately, things do not always happen that way. </p>
<p>If left unfixed, a once happy marriage could dwindle down to a dull relationship with your spouse. Worse yet, it could lead into an unforeseen divorce on the horizon. </p>
<p>Yes, it is certainly possible to save your marriage. It will certainly take some time and a lot of effort, but your hard work will greatly pay off in the end.</p>
<p>Many couples go through different phases in the duration of their relationship. The first period is the honeymoon phase. This is when you are hopelessly in love and cannot keep your hands off one another. </p>
<p>Both you and your partner are inseparable and you do virtually everything together. You want this phase to last forever. Some people decide to engage into marriage at this point while others decide to wait. </p>
<p>Once you have been together with your spouse for a while, the marriage tends to relax a bit. You oftentimes dont do everything together as you once used to and the two of you arent constantly all over each other anymore as you once were during the honeymoon phase. </p>
<p>While that is relatively common and not considered a bad thing, it could possibly lead to some downfalls later on in the marriage. One spouse may feel that they are being neglected because they do not get that constant attention anymore.  </p>
<p>One of the last phases the marriage goes through comes after having children. In a family that has children, it is common for parents to put their children first before their spouse. </p>
<p>Alone time for the parents then gets pushed aside in order for the children to be nurtured and cared for. Care must be taken to harmoniously balance time alone with your spouse and together the children, or else problems will begin to surface.  </p>
<p>In order to keep your marriage alive, it needs to be understood that together time is necessary for both partners. You will need to schedule some time to be alone with your spouse. </p>
<p>If you have children, it is very easy to get caught up in your everyday lifestyle of having a family, which may leave you no time for yourself or your spouse. </p>
<p>This can result in upcoming problems. One of the best things you can do to save your marriage from going to pieces is to maintain open communication. Tell your partner what is on your mind and how you feel before things start to unravel.</p>
<p>Many couples have found it very beneficial to schedule a date night, such as every Tuesday. It should be marked on the calendar and known by the entire family that Mom and Dad are going out every Tuesday night. </p>
<p>Of course arrangements need to be made beforehand to hire a sitter to care for the kids. If you cannot find a sitter, you can reschedule your date night for the weekend. </p>
<p>Your kids could then go over to a friends house to spend the night. This would give you both the entire evening to rekindle that flame and keep things fired up in the relationship. That roaring fire can surely help save your marriage over an icy cold cocktail at your favorite restaurant or lounge. </p>
<p>Very importantly, make it a rule to never go to bed angry. If you are having some sort of argument or problem that the two of you are not agreeing on, make it a point to always make up before you go to sleep. This helps to resolve any resentment issues you may have in the morning. </p>
<p>It is also important to complement each other at least once a day. In actuality, it is the smaller things that matter the most. A little complement about how beautiful she looks in her blouse, or how handsome he looks in his shirt can go a long way. </p>
<p>It greatly helps to boost the self-esteem of your partner and it makes them feel special in the sense that you took the time to notice something and compliment them on it. </p>
<p>Save your marriage by showing your partner that you really mean it and you really care. They will love and appreciate you more for it!</p>
<p>Alan Largo is the creator and administrator of Save Any Marriage and strives to assist others identify with their adverse marital situation through informative reviews. You&#8217;re invited to visit <a href="http://saveanymarriage.wordpress.com/">Save Any Marriage</a> to read his most recent article review.</p>
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		<title>How to Effectively Save Your Marriage</title>
		<link>http://www.allwomenideas.com/2008/06/06/how-to-effectively-save-your-marriage/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 31 Dec 1969 19:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[If your relationship is on the rocks and you are afraid divorce is inevitable, think again. You may, with the right skills and enough effort, be able to save your marriage. However, it is not an easy process and both partners have to be willing to put in the work. You cannot fix a relationship [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If your relationship is on the rocks and you are afraid divorce is inevitable, think again. You may, with the right skills and enough effort, be able to save your marriage. However, it is not an easy process and both partners have to be willing to put in the work. You cannot fix a relationship by assuming the answer is your partner giving in. Here are a few tips on how to rescue you and your love from a bad situation.</p>
<p>You are an equal partner. Understand that the key to saving your marriage is not getting everything you demand or giving into whatever your partner once. These kinds of solutions are short term band-aids that only allow the situation to get worse. You both have to have an equal part in the relationship, though equality does not mean that you have exactly the same roles.  </p>
<p>Remember that everything can be fixed. There is no problem that is impossible to repair if you and your partner are willing to work on it. It does not matter if you are feeling incompatible in the bedroom, dealing with an affair, or having money problems. Learning to communicate and being patient will help both of you come to terms with whatever has happened or is happening.  </p>
<p>That does not mean that all sins have to be immediately forgiven, but you do have to be willing to work on the situation. Learn not to accuse or judge, even when you are angry or you feel your partner is in the wrong.  With enough work from both sides, your relationship can be salvaged.</p>
<p>Communication is important! Your partner is not a mind reader and may not know why you are feeling agitated or unhappy. However, in order to effectively communicate the problem, you also have to know what it is. It is vital that both partners in a relationship learn to examine their own thoughts, emotions, and assumptions to come to a balanced solution. You cannot save your marriage if you do not know what is wrong.  </p>
<p>Think hard about what the problems are and where they are really coming from. It is easy to blame your troubles on something obvious, but that is not always the real root of the trouble.  Once you know what is happening in your mind and why you react the way you do, you and your partner can get to work on solving your problems.</p>
<p>You are going to have to give a few things up to save your marriage. If you and your partner spend a lot of time arguing, one of the things that is going to have to go is trying to win an argument. Really, there is no winner in a fight because every fight that is not resolved results in a deeper divide between you. As a couple, you will need to learn to address these situations as a challenge to solve, not a battle to win.</p>
<p>Remember, a marriage is a partnership. You have to work with your spouse to develop a relationship that functions and is healthy and positive for both persons. Do not be afraid to talk to a professional if you feel the need to. Marriage counselors and others are trained in teaching people how to talk to each other and work out their differences. If you are willing to put forth the effort, you can certainly save your marriage.</p>
<p>Alan Largo is the creator and administrator of Save Any Marriage and strives to assist others identify with their adverse marital situation through informative reviews. You&#8217;re invited to visit <a href="http://saveanymarriage.wordpress.com/">Save Any Marriage</a> to read his most recent article review.</p>
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		<title>7 Simple Steps To A More Fulfilling Marriage</title>
		<link>http://www.allwomenideas.com/2008/05/17/7-simple-steps-to-a-more-fulfilling-marriage/</link>
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		<description><![CDATA[When lovers take the plunge and say their vows, they sincerely wish their conjugality to last for a lifetime. They aim to spend the duration of their lives together as partners, growing older with each other and spending every cheery moment conceivable with each other. 
However, sometimes things don&#8217;t seem to work out that way. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When lovers take the plunge and say their vows, they sincerely wish their conjugality to last for a lifetime. They aim to spend the duration of their lives together as partners, growing older with each other and spending every cheery moment conceivable with each other. </p>
<p>However, sometimes things don&#8217;t seem to work out that way. Partners fight, argue and disagree on certain issues and get all riled up at each other. This is commonplace to some point but you must not let it adversely influence your marriage. </p>
<p>A lot of people may not realize that marriage requires a large amount of work from both partners involved. If you don&#8217;t work at trying to save your marriage, it may lead to more severe and costly predicaments later on. One or both partners in the marriage may feel that they&#8217;re being stifled, neglected and mistrusted or feel that their marriage is sinking into a rut.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s significant to recall the reasons why you found love with your spouse and the reasons why you desire to spend the rest of your life with them. You really should try keeping that spark burning. It&#8217;s always preferable trying to solve problems out with one another before seeking the recommendations of a professional. </p>
<p>Keep in mind however that if your efforts are not working, there is nothing discreditable about going to counseling together. This is very important. It needs to be essential for both you and your spouse to save your marriage by trying to keep things working.  </p>
<p>Keeping the communication lines open is one of the most crucial elements in a stable marriage. This is one of the extensive key factors in bringing on a marriage to work. Often times we can get short-sighted in trying to tell our spouse how we feel about them, however we have oversight to hear how they feel. </p>
<p>You must bear in mind that although your feelings are consequential and should be heard - so are your partner&#8217;s. If both of you are having concerns or are feeling neglected, it&#8217;s vital for both of you to make time together - offering each other the opportunity to talk and convey to the other your feelings. Honest and unimpeded communication is virtually bound to save any marriage from calamity. </p>
<p>Arranging time for both yourself and your partner is essential. Make it a date night! Oftentimes partners get so caught up in their busy routines that they disremember to spend time together with each other. This is a time where a date night can really do some magic. </p>
<p>It gives both you and your spouse one night a week to spend special time together with each other. This is your major opportunity to forget your problems at work, the house that needs cleaning up, the neighbor&#8217;s noisy kids&#8230;. everything. </p>
<p>This would be your special night together to devote to your conjugality and nurture that relationship by keeping the fireworks burning. If you have any kids, it would be the perfect chance to get them to spend the night at a friend&#8217;s house. This would grant you and your partner an entire night together to fire up that flame. </p>
<p>Rekindling that wildfire is bound to save any marriage from being doused. Your partner is your biggest investment in marriage. Love is the greatest return on that investment.</p>
<p>Alan Largo is the creator and administrator of Save Any Marriage and strives to assist others identify with their adverse marital situation through informative reviews. You&#8217;re invited to visit <a href="http://saveanymarriage.wordpress.com/">Save Any Marriage</a> to read his most recent article review.</p>
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		<title>3 Simple Tips To A Happier Marriage</title>
		<link>http://www.allwomenideas.com/2008/04/28/3-simple-tips-to-a-happier-marriage/</link>
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However, some things don&#8217;t tend to befall that way. Couples [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When lovers make the move and say their marriage vows, they deeply want their marriage to last forever. They plan to share the remainder of their lives together as a couple, growing older with one another and sharing every cheery second imaginable with each other. </p>
<p>However, some things don&#8217;t tend to befall that way. Couples argue, fight and disagree on certain issues and get all flustered at one another. This is typical to a degree but you can&#8217;t let it negatively influence your marriage. </p>
<p>A lot of people may not know that marriage requires a great deal of effort from both spouses involved. If you don&#8217;t put an effort in saving your marriage, it can lead to more serious and expensive dilemmas later on. One or both spouses in the marriage may feel that they&#8217;re being stifled, slighted and mistrusted or feel that their marriage is sinking into a rut.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s meaningful to recollect the reasons why you found love with your partner and the reasons why you want to share the duration of your life with them. You need to really try keeping that fire sizzling. It&#8217;s often preferable attempting to iron issues out on your own before seeking the advice of a professional. </p>
<p>Have in mind though that if your attempts are falling through, there is nothing discreditable about pursuing counseling together. This is highly consequential. It needs to be essential for both you and your partner to save your marriage by attempting to keep things working. </p>
<p>Keeping the communication lines accessible is one of the most critical elements in a healthy marriage. This is one of many largest key factors in bringing on a marriage to work. </p>
<p>So often we tend to get near-sighted in attempting to tell our partner how we feel about them, however we have oversight to hear how they feel. You have to bear in mind that while your feelings are significant and need to be heard - so are your spouse&#8217;s. </p>
<p>If the two of you are having problems or are feeling slighted, it&#8217;s important for both of you to spend time together - offering one another a chance to vocalize and tell the other how you feel. Sincere and unimpeded communication is almost bound to save your marriage from calamity. </p>
<p>Arranging time for both yourself and your partner is essential. Make it a date night! Oftentimes married couples get so wrapped up in their busy routines that they disremember to share time together with one another. This is the time when a date night can really do miracles. </p>
<p>It gives both you and your partner one night out of the week to share well-deserved time together with one another. This is your big chance to forget your problems at work, the garage that needs cleaning up, the neighbor&#8217;s noisy kids&#8230;. everything. </p>
<p>This may be your special night together to dedicate to your marriage and rev up that relationship by keeping the fireworks blazing. If you happen to have children, it would be a golden opportunity to have them spend the night at their friend&#8217;s house. </p>
<p>This would allow you and your partner an entire night together to heat up that flame. Rekindling that wildfire is positive to save your marriage from being snuffed out. Your partner is your biggest investment in marriage. Love is the biggest return on that investment.</p>
<p>Alan Largo is the creator and administrator of Save Any Marriage and strives to assist others identify with their adverse marital situation through informative reviews. You&#8217;re invited to visit <a href="http://saveanymarriage.wordpress.com/">Save Any Marriage</a> to read his most recent article review.</p>
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